MAIDEN TO MOTHER: THE NEW JOURNEY

launching March 13, 2019

 
Maiden/ Mother/ Crone by Sulamith Wulfing

Maiden/ Mother/ Crone by Sulamith Wulfing

MAIDEN TO MOTHER SPRING 2019:

MARCH 13 to MAY 15th

WELCOME to THE CROSSING of MAIDEN TO MOTHER.

WE ARE SO GLAD YOU’RE HERE.


The Maiden to Mother Journey restores the vital, long buried feminine rite of passage from girl to womxn.

From Wounded Feminine to Mature Feminine.

+ It reframes beauty from the patriarchal lens - which defines beauty as external and fleeting - to a soul based, internal, eternal power that blooms with age.

+ This is a journey devoted to the healing and wholeness of the most prevalent feminine archetype in our society; the Wounded Maiden.

+ This work supports the “Motherless” Maidens into the next season of their life, the Healthy Mother, assisting them from the Becoming stage of their lives into their actual Being.

+ Missing this full moon stage of maturity and sovereignty is the great tragedy of the modern Feminine.

+ This Journey challenges the toxic notion that age is something to fear, instead, it argues, age is an initiation of power, self actualization, and wholeness.

+ This work explores the notion that midlife is not, as this culture proposes, where a womxn’s power ends, but instead, where it actually begins.

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PART ONE.

MOVING OUT OF MAIDEN.

It feels like:



“I was being called into this threshold.

I was being told not to ignore this deep and painful pause of emptiness, that thing or no- thing we fear so much.

I was being told that this was real, this crossing, this threshold, and not to ignore it, just because this is a Feminine Rite of Passage that’s been buried by a patriarchal culture

did not mean it wasn’t real.


We must call it back.

We must call it forth.

We must call each other forth.

We must talk about it between each other, with each other.

We must talk about the power of Mother.

We must talk about the power of the fullness of a womxn in the full moon, the full bloom, the summer of her life in which she becomes and gives her greatest offering, her truest self.

We have to talk about this to make it, to make us, real.” *





A large part of my work has been influenced by the late great Jungian Analyst Marion Woodman. And the rumor is--  or perhaps it's just been surmised from her life's work, which, by the way, truly began at 40-  that on her deathbed Woodman wished,

for *all womxn to live a life of their own.*

In doing this work, we ask ourselves, what is that- a life of our own- and have we lived it?

And if not,

when will we?

Do you ever feel stuck in girlhood, like it’s hard to “grow up,” hard to progress into the power of womanhood?

There IS a block for many of us, and it’s due to the disappearance of this bridge we once crossed together as womxn in the Maiden to Mother Rite of Passage.

In doing this work, we rebuild the bridge from Girl to Womxn,

TOGETHER.

The first part of this journey we study - to integrate- the patterns that keep us in Wounded Maiden.

When I began this journey myself, I spent years studying the patterns of the Wounded Maiden.

I didn’t have to look very far- I of course, was that Motherless (by Motherless, I mean lacking connection to internal source, lacking confidence, self trust, self protection- an Inner Mother. I also lost my Mother to cancer when I, and she, were both young.)

Before I did this work I was constantly drowning in the waters of life, with no inner lifeguard. I could not figure out how to save myself, but I was very good at drowning.

For the first part of my life, and then deep into what others would consider womanhood, I was a scared, distracted, immature, reactive and vain girl.

I began to study my Wounded Maiden behaviroal blocks- and they resonated with the collective feminine wounds of fragility, vanity and victimhood.

I started to develop a theory that this paradigm we're in, this culture of patriarchal toxic masculinity, actually groomed and wanted us to stay these terrified little girls to keep us out of our power.

I realized the culture bullied and bred us to stay this way throughout, dare I say, our potentially wasted lives.

The Death of the Maiden is where we enter the Portal and the work begins.

The Maiden is the healthy beginning phase of our life- it becomes unhealthy when we stay trapped in the phase of Maiden, deep into what needs to be our womxnhood, or, the archetypal Mother,

the Full Moon of Our Lives.


Here we’ll take a deeper look at the traits of the Wounded Maiden which have been perpetuated by a toxic masculine society. These are the wounded natures, behaviors and reactions that have kept us trapped in our smallness, like fragile girls.



These are the behaviors, if, we still came together in Community for Rites of Passage Ceremonies, we would be laying down as we crossed over into Mother—Into the Summer of our Lives.

Identifying the traits of our Wounded Maiden is the first step across the threshold into Mother.


Do you feel ready to “grow up” and self-actualize?

What does it mean to grow up, what does it mean to become ourselves?


This is what we do on the journey from Maiden into Mother, we come more fully into our power, to live a life of our own, so that when our time comes to die, at what we can only hope is an old age, we are at peace, not haunted by own unlived dreams—we feel we have truly lived.

We find ourselves at this crossroads when we deeply know we are not giving our fullness to life.

We instinctually know we aren’t living our “own” lives, and that just like the nature we are born from, we are meant to bloom.

To come into Mother is to bloom.

When we bloom, we give our greatest gift- ourselves- to the world.

We don’t want to stay closed, we will harden and wither away this way- but so many of us do, we stay closed and fearful from the bruises life has given us, and in our fear, we cannot give our full gifts to life.

It is at this crossing that we want- that we consciously choose- to open, and offer ourselves to the world. .


Are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?

- Mary Oliver.

This journey is about strengthening the focused inner experience, over the noise of the distracting outer life.

It is about holding our vision for ourselves and the world and birthing that.

In Wounded Maiden we have yet to truly hear ourselves because we have yet to truly know ourselves- and that is all okay.

That's what the searching phase, the beginning phase, of the Maiden is about. It's the searching of identity, the searching of a place in the world, the searching of our own voice.


I’ve spent my whole life trying to prove that I am good

Now I just want to be me
Trying so hard to “be nice”

erased

my personality.*



Two of the things that die with the death of the Maiden: one, her attachment to fantasy, it's the death of the fairy tale that she will be rescued from her life by anyone but herself.

Reality is not a bad word: she finds out who she really is, what really matters to her, & what she really wants.

The death of fantasy, of crushes & unlived dreams, the death of the delusion she will live forever, that others are responsible for her happiness, only serves to empower her & break her out of her glass case, to live, to act.

The Death of the Maiden precludes the Birth of the Mother.

There are Three

Ways to Join Us.

SOLD OUT.




This is the option to have my personal guidance with you along the way. I’ve walked with many womxn across this threshold and I’d be honored to personally hold space for you as you cross over into Mother.

We’ll have three personal calls together at your time of choice:

a personal 45 minute introduction call where we identify where you are on your journey and you can ask me any questions you like. We’ll consult the Runes for your path guidance. The Runes are the ancient Nordic Fortune Telling Stones I’ve been working with as Oracle for most of my life, first, and then deepen into the call. We’ll identify the Maiden traits you’re entering with as we begin the crossing of this threshold.

Around the time of the Underworld calls we’ll do a mid journey check in with you and the Runes to feel how you’re doing in your transition, and what blocks you might be meeting.

At the end of the journey we’ll finish with a one on one closing call to seal the work in and come up with a plan to continue your Mother Work.





PART TWO.

JOURNEY WITH SUMERIAN GODDESS of HEAVEN and EARTH and REBIRTH, INANNA, and HER DARK SISTER of the UNDERWORLD, ERESHKIGAL.


INANNA.

It was time to figure out who the hell I was,

just like Inanna went to Hell

to figure out who the hell She was.


This Maiden to Mother Journey was birthed from the lessons of Inanna’s brave and endlessly rich Heroine’s Journey.

As we dive into the Underworld, that space between lives, we’ll be guided by the the teachings from the Journey of Goddess Inanna, The Sumerian Goddess who chose to go to the Underworld to meet her Dark Sister Ereshkigal, and in doing so, face her own dark half. When Inanna rose, she would never be the same- for she had become her true self. When she changed her own life, she changed the world. She knew she would have died in her safe everyday existence, and that in the adventure of following her heart’s call, she’d be reborn.

Together we’ll walk through the the gates of her endlessly relatable tale of facing her darkness to find her light.



PART THREE.

THE UNDERWORLD.

Maybe it feels like you're on the bottom of the ocean

and you've been here for a while now

and you're looking up at everyone else going on with their lives while

you lay in the wreck of your life, unable to

move forward.

Welcome to the Underworld. It is the pause between lives, between the archetypes. It is the gestation period between death and rebirth. Acknowledging we’re in the Underworld can be the very path out, back to life.


Maureen Murdoch, who wrote The Heroine’s Journey, says that to be “in the underworld is to be chastened and cleansed by the fires of transformation.

It is to witness one’s own death, attend one’s own funeral.”

I finally realized I was all alone

I was going to have to live without their training wheels

I was finally going to have to believe in me

First it was terrifying

Then I felt free.*

To find and free the buried goddess within us, we really don't ascend or transcend:

We move down into ourselves

for the goddess lives in our bodies and the goddess lives in the earth.

We have to descend for her into the earth, into our bodies, into the mud where she’s been buried, where we’ve repressed our true selves, where the lotus of us is buried.

This process, Maureen Murdoch says, is the spiritual experience for women. It's one of moving more deeply into self rather than out of self.

This is where we meet the splintered off, buried dark parts of ourselves. It’s where we grieve the Maiden, and welcome back the parts of us we haven’t let breathe or see the light of our days. We uncover and re discover the parts we’ve covered over.

It’s deep beautiful midwifing work to allow the birth into Mother.

This is where we ask the big questions of ourselves to reframe and redirect our lives.

But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do--
determined to save
the only life you could save.

- The Journey, Mary Oliver.

PART FOUR.

THE BIRTH OF THE MOTHER.

When we're in Wounded Maiden, the outer voices are louder than the inner voice.

When we’re in Healthy Mother, the inner voice is louder than the outer voices.

All change happens with sacrifice and we know we can no longer be in Maiden to serve our world.

As we know, with every change in our life, there's some sacrifice, there’s some death for the birth.

The Maiden died for the Mother to be birthed.
The Mother  is the one who can tend to the cries of the world.

The Maiden only has space for her pain- The word Mother holds the word Other. The Mother can hold space for herself, as well as space for the other. She has moved from Me, to We.

The gift of the Maiden is thinking she has forever.

The gift of the Mother is knowing she does not.

This is our sacred activation time,

to live a life of our own design.


“...Are my boots old? Is my coat torn?
Am I no longer young and still not half-perfect? 
Let me
keep my mind on what matters,
which is my work,
which is mostly standing still and learning to be
astonished....”

--Mary Oliver





Stop looking for your beauty in the mirror.

That’s not where your true beauty is.

This is where we begin the process of kneeling at the Altar of our Inner Beauty…

Something else that begins to die with the death of the Maiden, like petals falling from the shattered open flower, is her external beauty which she once relied upon, which therefore allowed her to rely upon external validation.

Now, she must rely upon her soul. The time of the Mother is the bloom of that soul.

This passage: her first wrinkles, the thinning of her hair, the softening & slight sagging of her skin/ for she is literally, softening/ will also serve her, by inviting her to go within herself to re-define what beauty truly is.

If beauty is no longer her face, where and what is it?

Is it self reliance, bravery, her intuition, resilience, grace, authenticity,  compassion, imagination, service, humor, vulnerability coupled with strength?

She will reach down deep & allow these powers to rise.

Her beauty from now on will need no mirror for validation.

This Internal eternal beauty will be what she loves herself & is loved for, not the fleeting external.

Her soul, her truth, her gifts, will be seen.

These deaths of the Maiden, if allowed with grace, were always giving way to births, and these dark feminine passageways were always leading to wisdom.

This is where we discover the power of age, and bask in the privilege of it, where we discover the spiritual secrets of passing into age.And where we’ll uncover a lifetime’s worth of tips to stay seated on your personal inner throne.

Are we ready to become Mothers to ourselves and Mothers to the world?

What could matter more than returning the healthy, life giving Mothers to a dying crying world?

PART FIVE.

FINAL BONUS CALL:

Self Care for the Vessel who has brought us this far:

A Relaxing Slow Down Final Call for Vibrant Natural Internal and Eternal Beauty.

30 Slow, Holistic and Natural and ancient recipes to care for our body mind and spirit as we age.

The Wise Woman’s Path to Deep, Eternal & Internal Beauty for a long beautiful life.


SOLD OUT


what: INTRO TO THE MOTHER WORK.
when: 5 PM EST, Wednesday, March 13th, 2019

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity, with Call Notes & Ritual Suggestion Posted in the Group Portal.

+ Welcome & Why We Do This Work.

What to Expect:

+ You’ll be invited into circle, offered the opportunity to introduce yourself to the other passengers,

to tell us a bit of where you are on your journey,

why you’ve been called to do this work,

and to set your intentions for this work.

+ We’ll look at the big picture of why this RITE of PASSAGE is so vital to the Collective Feminine.

Image: Ophelia by Voodica

Image: Ophelia by Voodica

what: THE DEATH OF THE MAIDEN PART I & II

when: 5 PM EST, Wednesdays, March 20th & March 27th, 2019

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity, with Call Notes & Ritual Suggestion Posted in the Group Portal.

This is where we enter the Portal and the work begins.

+What to Expect: Identifying the Healthy Maiden

+Identifying the Traits of the Wounded Maiden

+Identifying Our Maiden Masks

+the Unhealthy Risks of the Maiden vs the Healthy Risks of the Mother

+Identifying the Self Mother Response to the Wounded Traits

+Ritual Work to Integrate the Traits of the Wounded Maiden

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what: INANNA, ERESHKIGAL, & THE HEROINE’S JOURNEY.
when: 5 PM, Wednesday, April 3rd, 2019

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity, with Call Notes & Ritual Suggestion Posted in the Group Portal.

What to Expect:

+The Myth of Goddess Inanna + Her Dark Sister Ereshkigal

+The Teachings + Lessons of her Heroine’s Journey + How they Apply to Modern Life

+ Tracking our own Heroine’s Journey: What is Calling Us?


BREAK/ INTEGRATION WEEK // NO CALL WEDNESDAY APRIL 10th.


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image: daniel vazquez



what: THE UNDERWORLD PART I & II

when: 5 PM EST, Wednesdays April 17th & 24th, 2019.

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity, with Call Notes & Ritual Suggestion Posted in the Group Portal.

What to Expect:

+Allowing Change + Honoring Loss in Our Lives

+Losing Our Masks

+Navigating Nothingness + the In Betweens

+Meeting the Dark Sister in Us

+Feeling our Unfelt Feelings

+Midwifing Through Transition

+Ask the big questions of ourselves to reframe and redirect our lives.

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what: THE RISE OF THE MOTHER PART I & II

when: 5 PM EST, Wednesdays, May 1st, & May 8th, 2019.

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity, with Call Notes & Ritual Suggestion Posted in the Group Portal.

What to Expect:

+embodying healthy leadership

+the qualities of the Healthy Mother Archetype

+Recognizing the Death Mother

+finding our inner seat / throne

+staying in Mother during chaos

+spiritual secrets of age

+a lifetime of tips to stay on your inner throne

+Kneeling at the Altar of Inner Beauty: allowing our internal + eternal beauty to rise.


what: THE WISE WOMAN’S PATH TO ETERNAL, INTERNAL BEAUTY

when: 5 PM, Wednesday EST, May 15th, 2019.

details: a Live Call, Recorded for Posterity.

A refreshing, relaxing call walking down the path of self care for Mind Body and Spirit beauty and renewal to care for the vessel which has walked us this far and to support a long and beautiful life.

30 of my favorite self care recipes featuring tonics, teas, hair masks, body scrubs, facials, and more, all made from holistic ingredients in your cupboard or local health food store.

These are timeless, natural eternal and internal beauty recipes that have been passed on from our ancestors.

PAYMENT/ EXCHANGE OPTIONS for the Nine Week Journey Into MOTHER:

SOLD OUT


One Time Payment for the Full Journey PLUS Three 45 Minute Personal Sessions and Runework.

SOLD OUT

This is the option to have my personal guidance with you along the way. I’ve walked with many womxn across this threshold and I’d be honored to personally hold space for you as you cross over into Mother.

We’ll have three personal calls together at your time of choice:

a personal 45 minute introduction call where we identify where you are on your journey and you can ask me any questions you like. We’ll consult the Runes for your path guidance. The Runes are the ancient Nordic Fortune Telling Stones I’ve been working with as Oracle for most of my life, first, and then deepen into the call. We’ll identify the Maiden traits you’re entering with as we begin the crossing of this threshold.

Around the time of the Underworld calls we’ll do a mid journey check in with you and the Runes to feel how you’re doing in your transition, and what blocks you might be meeting.

At the end of the journey we’ll finish with a one on one closing call to seal the work in and come up with a plan to continue your Mother Work.




THE JOURNEY INCLUDES A GROUP PORTAL WHERE ALL RITUALS AND COURSE NOTES WILL BE POSTED.

THE NEW MAIDEN TO MOTHER JOURNEY 
was crafted for the woman ready to feel real.
For the woman who is tired of feeling like a little girl.
For the woman who is trapped between lives,
the old one, and the one she has been dreaming of. 



THE NEW MAIDEN TO MOTHER JOURNEY IS FOR YOU IF
you feel stuck in the Underworld, and ready to rise. 
If you feel stuck in your bud, but you're longing to bloom. 
If there are repeated patterns of behavior that are keeping you small. 

If you're ready to cultivate your Inner Mother & learn how to Self Mother.
If you're ready to embody healthy feminine leadership
If you're ready to descend to the Goddess and dissent from white supremacist toxic masculine patriarchy.
If you're ready to recognize your True & Inner Beauty. 
If you're ready to work with the spiritual gifts of aging.
If you're ready to answer the call of the Great Mother as her warrior. 


* Quotes from my forthcoming book, The Passage Into Mother.


MENTAL HEALTH DISCLAIMER: I am not a psychiatrist. I’m a writer and teacher who has spent years studying the archetypal passage into Mother through my personal journey and the journeys of others. I am a personal proponent of therapy, but I understand it is a societal and financial privilege. This offering is an experience, part story telling and part ritual, and is not to be in place of therapy or mental health caregiving.